Wednesday, January 14, 2009

To Do List....


I want to remember to do certain things every day. Sometimes I use a to do list. I find if I make out a to do list, it gives me the incentive to get some of those things on it done. Ordinarily I would forget to do any of those things and focus on the day to day things like laundry, vacuuming and dusting, etc. I would like to make a To Do list of things I want my hubby to do. It would be as long as my arm. LOL Someday he will get inspired to do some of the things he hasn't finished, or start some of the things he has bought tools or parts for. I don't want to nag him but sometimes it gets frustrating to see unfinished things in the house. For instance, 2 years ago he decided to remodel our master bathroom. He and a friend who is a retired contractor tore the bathroom apart in one day. Then they redrywalled it and textured the walls and that was it. It stayed that way for almost a year. Meanwhile we had a toilet, shower enclosure, shower door, sink, cabinets, etc. in the garage. Now is has been 27 months and we have the room painted, the floor tiled and the sink, toilet and tub enclosure in. The shower doors haven't been installed yet, the towel racks are on the floor still the tp holder is also on the floor. The toilet has been shut off because he said it started leaking and he wants to replace the wax ring underneath it. What can I do to motivate this I man??? He spends the day sitting in his recliner watching television. I can't seem to get anything done myself because he is here all the time!! I can't get him to come to the gym with me. He says he is going to use our treadmill in the garage but it's freezing cold in there right now. Instead of finishing some of the things that are piling up to do, he buys new things to add to the list of things he wants to do. I love him to pieces but I worry about his inactivity. He has started eating a little better and isn't drinking the sodas he used to drink before he found out he was diabetic, but he needs to exercise. That will make him feel better and also make him want to do more. But I can't force him to exercise. So I just grit my teeth and don't make waves and just do my thing and try to be encouraging. Grrrr!


God love him. I am certainly not perfect either but I would love to have our house finished at least. I have said enough and don't want to make it sound like I am married to a flake because he is a great guy and I love him. Now I am going to make out my own To do list for today........

7 comments:

Dutch said...

My husband is the same way. I know he works but on his days off I would love for him to do some things that need fixing around the house. We have had this house for 4-1/2 years and I am still waiting for certain projects. He told me he hates when I say I have a honey do list for you. I don't do that anymore. Have a great day.

Gerry said...

Kathy,
Honestly, I think men are all alike and not in a bad way. When they reach a certain age they are oblivious to their surroundings. My dad use to say, God rest his soul, "I can't smell what you want!" I guess what I am saying is, you have to let him know that it would be nice to get something done...even if he gets someone else to do it.

Judi said...

Kathy....
I didn't realize my husband had another wife.....
You wanna flip for him?
;-)
Judi

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

I have always had a list to do and love it when something gets crossed off. Good luck with yours. 'On Ya'-ma

Tatersmama said...

My guy's the same way. My best motivator is to ask him to look in the phone book for me, for a repairman/painter/plumber etc... and then he gets straight into doing it!
Or if I drag the ladder out and say I'm going to clean the gutters, he won't let me climb it, and insists on doing it himself.

It can be hard, but I wouldn't trade mine for anything. :o)
Usually.

Eileen, Founder, Organizer, Mayor and Chief Cook And Bottle Washer of the Anger Management Girls. said...

My husband was the same way. His big excuse was he didn't know how to do anything. So we sort of swapped. Fridays he washed all the floors. Did all the ironing, etc, while I figured out how to put that toilet ring on the toilet. You'd be surprised what you can do.

Once a friend of mine came home from work one day and found her retired husband on the recliner in the same position as she left him 9 hours earlier. She became enraged and when he got up to go to the kitchen, she threw the chair out the front door. He walked back into the living room and didn't even acknowledge what she did. He just sat in a different chair. True Story.

Judi said...

Well....you already heard my husband-recliner story but it's worth repeating. I sent it away with my son to PhDland. Our poor boy had no furniture!! How could we send him away furnitureless? And, the piece of furniture I hated the most was my husband's recliner. So, I single handedly dragged it out of the living room and loaded it into the U-Haul. Yes, there were screams and months and months of pouting. But, we survived without it . Until December 29. That's when a new recliner moved in....
I keep saying....it would look so nice in Toni's dorm room. To that Toni responds...."don't you dare"....
The damn thing has a 10 year warranty...!